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Help!! My BB is ruining my life!

Posted: Fri Jun 16, 2017 8:13 pm
by deedee8
I'm like everyone on here.. I brush, floss, mints, sprays, rinses, shower, extremely conscience about any odors I emit, and really go overboard with being clean, almost to the point of being OCD. Unfortunately all my efforts fall on deaf ears because I'm constantly mocked, made fun of and looked down upon. I'm in my early 40's and I can't believe that adults behave this way. At my previous employment, the harassment got so bad that I left :( I recently started working at an attorney's office where co-workers and attorneys go out of their way to walk by my desk, sniffling, holding their noses and conduct loud "whispers" as they've made it abundantly clear that my odor offends them. The kicker is I still doubted that maybe, just possibly it wasn't me this time (because I can't smell anything other than my fabric softer or the fragrant hand lotions I apply every 5 minutes), so I thought I will prove to myself that I'm just being paranoid.. So I pressed record on my iphone left it on my desk and walked away.. My worst nightmare has come true for the second time. It is me.. I'm so HUMILIATED.. People are so cruel, I don't want to go back to work. Not now, when I know what they say the minute I leave the room!

I've been seen by 2 different doctors, 1 said I don't have bad breath, the other said I should follow up with my dentist and my dentist said I should follow up with my doctor. I've had halitosis for years, but apparently it's gotten to a point where my smell fills up a room (something I learned from the recording).

I've tried all the special (expensive) toothpastes, mouthwash, lozenges, supplements (chlorophyll), even placed spices in my mouth (cadmium).. oil pulling (fresh breath that last about 2 minutes).. NOTHING helps! I just ordered oral probiotics, I read somewhere that it would help if the smell is coming from my gut. I hate that people treat me like I'm disgusting or that I don't deserve respect. My confidence is at an all time low..

I'm making another doctor's appointment because I feel it may have something to do with a post nasal drip (I'll move on to doctor number 3-but this time I'm not going to just mumble and be embarrassed, I need HELP). I have the constant feeling of phlegm in the back of my throat. Does anyone else have this?

Your thoughts, comments, stories, tips would greatly be appreciated! We're all in the boat together!

Re: Help!! My BB is ruining my life!

Posted: Fri Jun 16, 2017 9:50 pm
by fog
Ive never worked in an office environment myself, sad to hear ppl behaving like that.

I read on this site the other day that women can get BB during their period if that can be of some use, other than that I would say try the treatments in the cured treads. Im guessing thats what your doing already. I just had a go at a strict diet that I failed, probably too strict. Gotta find some decent healthy food I can tolerate long term. Im thinking what we put into our bodies is a major factor to BB.

Re: Help!! My BB is ruining my life!

Posted: Fri Jun 16, 2017 10:12 pm
by letsgetcured
So sorry to hear what you are going through. I think its safe to say the majority of us experience something similar. I know I have.

Ask your ENT for a FEESST test to check for acid reflux. I just took one yesterday where they give you a drink and some snacks and monitor the reflux. Apparently my PND and acid reflux is severe. Will they be able to give me meds that will actually fix the problem along with my bb? Who knows but I dont have anything to lose at this point. Feel free to message me if you need to. I know what you're going through. I was just at my lowest point I've ever been until I heard the news from my doctor. I never thought I'd see the day that I'm happy to have something wrong with me lol.

I think the first step is getting somebody to confirm exactly what type of smell you have (fecal, sour, fishy etc), the intensity (1-10), if it can be smelled through nasal breathing, and if it is bad 24/7 or only during certain situations (after eating, when stressed, when youre hungry). Once you have those answers, you're doing pretty good. The problem is we never have the guts to ask someone and when we do, they lie to us because they're scared of hurting our feelings. They don't realize that they are hurting our feelings even more by not telling the truth. I personally met with someone from this website and we couldn't even smell each other. It was the weirdest thing ever because we know for a fact we have this issue. Right after I saw him, I was feeling pretty confident so I talked to someone else and he immediately covered his nose. For the most accurate feedback, I would recommend asking someone you love and trust and someone that has absolutely NO bad breath to smell you.

It's way easier to cure bad breath if you are very clear on what your symptoms are and the exact smell you are giving off.

Re: Help!! My BB is ruining my life!

Posted: Sat Jun 17, 2017 9:48 am
by deedee8
Thanks you for the response.This site has been amazing to hear other people's stories and suggestions, it's comforting to know there are people who LITERALLY understand what I'm going through!

I don't know what "type" of smell I have, due to the fact that my adult daughter can't smell it (or doesn't have the heart to be honest) and I don't know anyone that I'd feel comfortable asking. (I moved to NYC 4 yrs ago, and have made ZERO friends due to my BB issues).

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Re: Help!! My BB is ruining my life!

Posted: Sat Jun 17, 2017 5:13 pm
by Halina
Stay strong please we are all here to support each other
please forget about what happened, and don't let these feelingless people ruin your life and career
although i urge you to make your dentist and doctor listen to this record maybe they all put more effort to cure you

just to relieve you :) my coworker who is sitting next to me keeps on offering me gum, mint, chocolate and all the useless stuff and give me the hint that I stink ... so.... u are not alone :D

Re: Help!! My BB is ruining my life!

Posted: Sat Jun 17, 2017 5:43 pm
by deedee8
Halina wrote:Stay strong please we are all here to support each other
please forget about what happened, and don't let these feelingless people ruin your life and career
although i urge you to make your dentist and doctor listen to this record maybe they all put more effort to cure you

just to relieve you :) my coworker who is sitting next to me keeps on offering me gum, mint, chocolate and all the useless stuff and give me the hint that I stink ... so.... u are not alone :D
Thank you Halina! The support I'm receiving is giving me hope. I want to go back on Monday, but it's truly an inner battle with myself to face the humiliation again..

I'm sorry your co-worker is also insensitive. I'm thinking of confronting mine (on my end, it's an entire staff) and letting them know I'm aware of how uncomfortable it makes them, it's no walk in the park for me either, but to ask them to please have respect as I continue to work through the issues with my doctor. I just need to muster up the courage to actually do this. They aren't very nice people. It's one thing to talk behind my back when they weren't aware I was recording them, it's another when they go out of their way (as a group) to let me know I offend them :-(

One day at a time!

Re: Help!! My BB is ruining my life!

Posted: Sat Jun 17, 2017 7:04 pm
by Halina
Yeh even me i'm thinking daily of confronting my coworker but i'm afraid this will go wrong and lower my self-esteem even more as well as my dignity
you know what deedee8 ....let them all go to hell
just forget about it and please don't do the recording thing again why you want to know what people are saying behind your back if they have any problem with yourself they can talk to you about it


Also, try to avoid coffee at work i think it's the worst for bb sufferers