My email to friends and love ones about my BB

depressindc · Post by **depressindc** » Thu Oct 30, 2008 3:46 pm

Below is a copy of the email I just sent to my male friend; however, I haven't sent it to my girl friends and etc.. yet.

The reason why I'm doing this is because one of my good girl friends recently had a party and was disappointed that I didn't attend. She actually said she was not going to call me because she couldn't believe I didn't show up or call. The truth of the matter is I was out of excuses as to why I couldn't attend another event.

Anyways, here is a copy of the email:

Hello Friends, Family, and Love ones,

I decided to sent this email out to those I truly care about and consider dear to me. I ask that you do NOT reply or call me in reference to this email. Nevertheless, I felt the need to come clean and address some of my pass behaviors. I know there has been times I seem reluctant to attend events, gatherings, and etc... Well, the truth of the matter is, it isn't because I didn't want to attend. I get very depress from time to time and some times are worse than others.

As you all know, I seem to be suffering from chronic bad breath and this is very humiliating and trouble some for me. I have tried everything to correct this! I've been to all sorts of general practitioners, internalist, dentists, ents, and other specialist and no one knows what is wrong with me. I just can't take it any longer. It has become extremely hard for me to meet new people, attend social gatherings, and come out the house at times. Honestly, this is really destroying my life.
I can no longer handle the dirty stares or indirect comments anymore. God knows I've tried everything possible to correct this problem. Anyways, I just wanted to let you all know that I'm sorry if I have ever let you down or made you feel like you aren't important to me. I'm just at my wits with this matter and I don't know what else to do or where to go for help.

TTYL
-S-

Archimonde · Post by **Archimonde** » Thu Oct 30, 2008 5:57 pm

you're very brave, i could never do that, even for a million dollar.

Hank · Post by **Hank** » Thu Oct 30, 2008 10:05 pm

I have actually thought about doing the same thing. Curious... What were your goals in sending out this email? It will be interesting to see how the recipient responds... It's hard to imagine that you would get no response even though you directed them not to respond. Otherwise, if I did send a similar message, I would add that many, many people suffer silently from this condition and I might even send a link to this website so people can get a sense for what we're facing.

emotional rescue · Post by **emotional rescue** » Fri Oct 31, 2008 1:16 pm

Well done

I think to send this email will get you a lot of new options and different opinions about the problem.

It would be great to know what your loved ones think about this.

And at least you don´t have to lie no more.
I´ve been there many years

It´s good to open up

asd · Post by **asd** » Fri Oct 31, 2008 2:23 pm

very brave, and will probably be beneficial for you, no one will assume you have BB because you dont brush your teeth etc
good luck

iva · Post by **iva** » Fri Oct 31, 2008 2:52 pm

Bravo for the courage!

I had to tell all that stuff to my best friend face to face...She was the first person outside my family to hear the truth for my weird behaviour. The effect was she didn`t understand me, she gave me some examples of people she was working with who had bb but didn`t care and it was not an obstacle for them. So eventually she blamed me for being weak and not willing to struggle etc.
I am to meet her on Sunday and this will be the first converstaion after she has become aware of my problems and fears...
I swear I will NEVER EVER tell that to another friend of mine, though they may be perfectly aware of the problem!

Busted · Post by **Busted** » Sat Nov 01, 2008 3:54 pm

Man, I know what some of the replies would be like if I send an email like that. Probably some of them would say I'm a lier. What a good excuse they would say. I don't think they will believe me. Even now not everyone is being honest with me about my bb.

They think they hurt my feelings by telling me I have bb. It doesn't hurt me at all, cause it is the truth. Even if you don't tell me or admit that I have bb, there are enough other cruel people who do and this is something they do not understand.

You do not help a CH sufferer by telling him that he doesn't have bb. This a confidence boost maybe for a few hours, but if we find out later that we do have CH, we're going to be even more frustrated and dissappointed.