Considering s*****e, need someone to talk to?

dollymary1 · Post by **dollymary1** » Wed Jun 11, 2014 8:41 pm

Hi, I'm new to this website so this is my first post, and I apologise in advance if this is long, so I'm just going to get started right away.

For about 5 years I've had chronic bad breath that is with me 24/7, I didn't notice at first until a friend told me and after that my whole life, all my hopes and dreams of having a family and a career have just vanished. I am completely hidden away, I never go out with friends, and I would never ever consider having a boyfriend (I'm 16). My friends just put up with it but I have noticed they are gradually losing contact with me, they are making new friends which is completely normal and what I should be doing, but I can't. I am a really nice person if you know me, but no one will give me a chance to show that, people think I boring and moody, and no one understands that I can't help it. I never get a break from this and I just want to know what it's like to feel normal and like a real person. I will be going into college soon and I don't know how I'm going to cope, I feel like there's no point living anymore, if I die people will move on and not have to deal with me, I'm completely worthless and my parents deserve better. Sorry for going on I just really need help and I this I at least deserve a nice person who understands to help me.

Now about the medical side, everyday my throat feels blocked and I always need to cough, and my nose gets quite blocked. I had tonsil stones so I found the confidence to go to the doctors and I lied and said I frequently got tonsillitis and they removed them. Obviously I was so excited when I got hope despite the pain, after I was completely healed my breath returned to the foul smell that I've always had. I'm too embarrassed to see a doctor and I don't want my parents to know as I don't confide in anyone, I believe the problem may be down to post nasal drip, so I tried nasal irrigation which didn't work. When I was younger I had my nose cauterised twice, but I don't know if this has anything to do with it, and also I get yellow stringy stuff out of my eyes. As well, I have a tooth that is tinted back, and it has worn away on one side, and I have another tooth which looks black underneath, I was hoping this was my problem as I can just get the teeth removed, but I regularly visit the dentist, and although I've not mentioned it to him, surely he would have noticed them?

I really hope someone here can give me advice on how to get rid of it, but also mental support as I feel like I will never been the same person I was and I just need some support I think I deserve it.

Thank you xxx

Archimonde · Post by **Archimonde** » Wed Jun 11, 2014 9:53 pm

Many people have been cured of BB so there's always hope, that's what keeps me going.

I can't give you any advice on how to cure BB since i still have BB myself. I think you should only take the advice of people who actually cured their BB, try what has worked for them, and don't be afraid to seek professional help.

Ihatemybreath · Post by **Ihatemybreath** » Wed Jun 11, 2014 10:56 pm

It gets better. After some time you just don't care anymore.

NOTANYMORE · Post by **NOTANYMORE** » Thu Jun 12, 2014 1:11 am

You said you had tonsil stones. Well perhaps you still do and just don't know it. I am assuming you only had your palatine tonsils removed? But you still feel like you have something in your throat? Perhaps you have swollen, cryptic lingual tonsils as well. Please go to an ENT and explain that you are still having problems with halitosis and that you believe it is coming from the back of your tongue.

Your problems are very similar to mine and I have been BB free "so far" after getting ALL my tonsils removed to include the linguals (which is rare). Check out my thread under "SOMETHING TO SHARE".

Your friend,
NOTANYMORE

jamesmcavoy · Post by **jamesmcavoy** » Thu Jun 12, 2014 3:24 am

Hi there ,

What our friend NOTANYMORE said is right .if you still feel lump in the throat after removing tonsils , you first go to ent specialist , talk to him about the detailed checkup .
If this is not the case , its your sinus cavity and neti pot will do the trick .you said it didnt work but it has to be done many times when you feel clogged inside .
I think both of these conditions are sure to cause nasal odor too .
Dont lose hope , your condition is completly curable .
Check your pm .

doop · Post by **doop** » Sun Jun 15, 2014 7:08 am

I have sent you personal message

TIRED · Post by **TIRED** » Fri Jun 20, 2014 8:07 am

Hang in there hun! I have been dealing with this for years. Take interest in other things in life besides people…sounds weird and rude, but it is what you have to do to not go crazy. Choose a career where you don't have to work with people too much, like computer science or working with animals. Take interest in animals, nature, and sports that don't have teams. Cherish the relationships you do have. Always tell yourself that things could always be worse…there are people suffering even more than you out there.

I have thought of s*****e too, but I truly believe that God has given me this to teach me something…if I commit s*****e than I did not learn anything…I've quit, and I may have to go through this again in my next life. That cannot happen!

I know it's difficult when you are young…being social is everything at your age. But, really in the big picture we are here to help others…animals and nature need your help too…helping them can be your life's work, and in turn they will give you a sense of purpose…which is what we all crave!

So, put on your big girl pants, and go out there and show the world what you have to offer! Try to ignore the reactions because you are on a mission.

Aw to be young again…wish I could go back and chose a better career for my bb self.

dollymary1 · Post by **dollymary1** » Wed Jun 25, 2014 8:21 pm

Thanks so much everyone

sandspiegel · Post by **sandspiegel** » Sat Jun 28, 2014 12:07 am

Well like others said, take joy in everything you can. You are not here forever and someday you will die. Even if you have bb, there are good times ahead, where something good will happen to you. Who knows maybe someday you will stare back and laugh about your past, being cured of this curse.

Actually you know what I like to do, when I'm feeling really down? I like to remind myself, how small and insignificant my problems are in the grand scale of things and I like to look at those 2 pictures:

https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/-1FiC ... tled-3.jpg

the second one is a real picture taken by NASA at a distance of about 898.414 million miles from Earth:

https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/-mJKU ... 80.jpg.png

So just remind yourself, that you and your problems are absolutely insignificant in the grand scale of things ;-)

nikon · Post by **nikon** » Sat Jun 28, 2014 8:03 pm

I have thought of this some time ago. I was so down, so depressed. Maybe I still am depressed.

But we are better than that. We are actually better than most people who only cares about the shoes or dress to wear for the day. We think about this problem while we are working, while we are chatting with friends or families, while we are shopping, basically every time when we are with somebody. Yet we can still be very effective in what we do, while being bothered by this problem. Don't you think that's twice (or thrice) the stress you are having than the person sitting next to you??

So get up. Kick, punch, curse if you have to. We are better than them.

sandspiegel · Post by **sandspiegel** » Mon Jun 30, 2014 6:50 pm

Yeah from time to time I think about it too. Life often doesn't make sense if you know that you are probably gonna die alone anyway and that you probably won't be happy like normal people who have a wife and kids. My parents and brothers (who all have girlfriends) already ask themselves when I finally gonna meet a girl and I just sit there quietly and think to myself: "Are you all really that stupid that you don't realize what's going on here?". Also my father is an alcoholic and destroys the family with that shit. Man what a great life I have...
It sometimes seems just easier to end it all. If it wouldn't be for my amazing friends I probably wouldn't be here right now. They are the only people with whom I can still smile and laugh.