Handling Depression and Negative/sucidal Thought's
Posted: Thu Apr 12, 2018 1:38 pm
There are two kinds of people in the world, those who goes through in order to get a breakthrough and those stuck-in when going-through.
A piece of a word of encouragement from Smilinagain, your friend,member of badbreathhilitosis forum and fellow-sufferer of bb. Well, i'm more comfortable with the use of bb in place of bad breath.
Having search round the forum, i've noticed that a major part of this community are dwelling in isolation,depression,rejection,self pity ..ecc you name it. You can tell from their comment(s),low contribution to thread..
One question which i would like to ask every member's of this forum is that
What do you think will happen to these behaviour (loneliness,selfpity,sense of rejection..) which we've acquired over a period of time if, all of a sudden the medical organization discover effective medication to bb problem?
Sometime(s), it's possible to get solution to a specific problem but, the consequence of the negative action(s) or pattern of lifestyle remain's (consistent) with the person
When, i think about bb and all other humiliation which are associated to it, i compare this to people who are suffering from a complicated problem in our society like blindness,the deaf,cripple...ecc. i'm left with no choice but, see my bb problem as less problem that can keep me down all day. Such meditation can trigger encouragement to anybody but, no way , i don't create path to such medition instead we langhish in self-pity.
Take a moment and think how about the dependance of someone who is blind or lame. They depend on someone else to do 50%-80% of what they would have loved to do alone. Their liberty and freedom is so limited because their situation. I donot mean to say that bad breath is not a serious disease. My intention is to point-out that there are people around us suffering from a more severe problem but, they donot rely on selfpity as most of us.
I'm one of those optimistic when it comes to getting out bb completly in order to live a normal lifestyle without avoiding certain group of people or withdrawing from doing certain task in order not to get embarass. For now it's a cross that everyone of one must learn to carry.
Reason Why Most People Get Depress :
There are various reason why most people suffering from bad get depress
Inability to recognize and accept the current situation. Asking someone (colleague,family..) if, you breath actually smell bad is the #reason why most people get depress. Ofcourse, you are expecting to get an answer but, nobody seem to give you this answer's.
What do you expect, YES or NO. Unfortunately, as simple of this answer might sound, nobody can give you these answer's not, even those around you who normally snuff,close their nose with style each time you open your mouth to speak.
Let's get something right here and let's be sincere to ourselve also. If the response to the above question is YES, will it make you happier,sad or motivates you knowing that the other fellow keep's covering their nose or withdrawing back during conservation with you?
On the other hand's if, the response is NO will it give you satisfaction and boldness to chat with everyone?
So, why do we behave as if, this is the end of the world.Why base your chances of getting out of a difficult situation on thrid-party?
Why seek to know the reason why you are getting same reaction from everyone each time you try to chat or engage in little conversation with them?
Why not accept the reality within you in order to gain this sense of inner satisfaction?
Most people are only reacting to their perception. From experience, i've noticed most people react differently to specific smell (odour) There are also those who are allergic to smell meaning to perceive smell when there are none. They are these group of people who are addicted to rubbing their nose. And, they frequetly do this even when there is no odour.
Tip's to stay motivated -
The best step's to keep going on a daily basis is to chest-out pretend or ignore the reaction of those around you. Sometimes, these could be distraction.Prepare and focus your mind on accomplishing a heathier lifestyle.
Be happy, acknowledge the fact that you have bbbut, you are working toward's getting the right solution. For now, you've just not laid your hand's on working product's
Speak and convince yourself, thet you are not poorly hygienic as long as you keep brushing and applying your daily medication to the best you can.
Belief it, this mindset will make you feel no guilt in midst of humiliation. Say to youself, it's not my might fault that i'm a bb victim.
But, the good news is that i'm doing something to get myself out from this mess.
I practise this affirmation over a period of time and it had helped me not to judge myself base on what the other person think's about me. I have been through stuff which tend to be more complicated than bb.
Rememberance of a previous ugly situation which i have gone through in the past actually gives me inner strength face the current challenges
Don't judge yourself base on what other people are saying. This behavious will sunk your energy which are required to combat against the current challenges.
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Speak to yourself, i refuse to judge myself because i know what i'm going through!
I recognised that i'm going through hell but, no one seem to understand me or see's thing's from my own perspective!
I refuse to gain recognition in sight of men in order to be happy with myself!
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Note : i suggest you repeat these affirmation to yourselve in a quiet mode (enviroment)
Assume everything happening round you does not exist if, you think they will be an instrument of discouragement have negative influence on you.
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I refuse to seek opinion from people in order to be happy!
I know this it's my life, it my problem and my positive approach are gradually working a perfect solution for me.
I refuse to condemn myself by reliace on guilt,selfpity,isolation, depression... because will only me captive.
It does not matter if, they talk about my breath in the public or close places.
It does not matter if, they talk about my breath to my hearing or without my knowledge
What matter is that i'm happy, i'm strong and i'm overcoming problem that seem like a mountain today.
I donot need approval of anyone to be happy today.
I thank God for the ultimate gift of love today irrespective of my current situation.
I refuse to focus current problem.
----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Practicing to meditate and speak these word to yourself will not only raise self esteem but, it will also release inner energy that will keep you going until a day when you will finally say, i'm cured.
Fear is one of such attack that is gradually killing people today in our society. fear of rejection rejection, of getting broke,fear of humiliation...ecc
Negative thought's are more powerful than bad breath. So, we need conquer some of these thought's lingering in our mind/head in order to have more energy to overcome bb.
Finally, another ways to live without depression is to engage oneselves in doing what we loved doing. Nothing gives inner satisfaction than helping other's or reaching out to help other with your skill or talent. We all live in a society that is surrounded with people who are trying to solve or overcome one form of addiction or the other.
Helping or assisting other's who are in a more complicated situation will eventually increase our strength and fill our heart with joy
There are countless number's of what we can do. You maybe skillful in one area's more than the next door fellow, an offer to help will not only increase your sense of humor but, will also go along way to combat against depression. I find out that most idle people easily get depress in the face of challenges. Life is full of challenges but, overcoming one form of challenges will actually give you a greater strength to overcome the other challenges.
Cheer
Smilinagain
A piece of a word of encouragement from Smilinagain, your friend,member of badbreathhilitosis forum and fellow-sufferer of bb. Well, i'm more comfortable with the use of bb in place of bad breath.
Having search round the forum, i've noticed that a major part of this community are dwelling in isolation,depression,rejection,self pity ..ecc you name it. You can tell from their comment(s),low contribution to thread..
One question which i would like to ask every member's of this forum is that
What do you think will happen to these behaviour (loneliness,selfpity,sense of rejection..) which we've acquired over a period of time if, all of a sudden the medical organization discover effective medication to bb problem?
Sometime(s), it's possible to get solution to a specific problem but, the consequence of the negative action(s) or pattern of lifestyle remain's (consistent) with the person
When, i think about bb and all other humiliation which are associated to it, i compare this to people who are suffering from a complicated problem in our society like blindness,the deaf,cripple...ecc. i'm left with no choice but, see my bb problem as less problem that can keep me down all day. Such meditation can trigger encouragement to anybody but, no way , i don't create path to such medition instead we langhish in self-pity.
Take a moment and think how about the dependance of someone who is blind or lame. They depend on someone else to do 50%-80% of what they would have loved to do alone. Their liberty and freedom is so limited because their situation. I donot mean to say that bad breath is not a serious disease. My intention is to point-out that there are people around us suffering from a more severe problem but, they donot rely on selfpity as most of us.
I'm one of those optimistic when it comes to getting out bb completly in order to live a normal lifestyle without avoiding certain group of people or withdrawing from doing certain task in order not to get embarass. For now it's a cross that everyone of one must learn to carry.
Reason Why Most People Get Depress :
There are various reason why most people suffering from bad get depress
Inability to recognize and accept the current situation. Asking someone (colleague,family..) if, you breath actually smell bad is the #reason why most people get depress. Ofcourse, you are expecting to get an answer but, nobody seem to give you this answer's.
What do you expect, YES or NO. Unfortunately, as simple of this answer might sound, nobody can give you these answer's not, even those around you who normally snuff,close their nose with style each time you open your mouth to speak.
Let's get something right here and let's be sincere to ourselve also. If the response to the above question is YES, will it make you happier,sad or motivates you knowing that the other fellow keep's covering their nose or withdrawing back during conservation with you?
On the other hand's if, the response is NO will it give you satisfaction and boldness to chat with everyone?
So, why do we behave as if, this is the end of the world.Why base your chances of getting out of a difficult situation on thrid-party?
Why seek to know the reason why you are getting same reaction from everyone each time you try to chat or engage in little conversation with them?
Why not accept the reality within you in order to gain this sense of inner satisfaction?
Most people are only reacting to their perception. From experience, i've noticed most people react differently to specific smell (odour) There are also those who are allergic to smell meaning to perceive smell when there are none. They are these group of people who are addicted to rubbing their nose. And, they frequetly do this even when there is no odour.
Tip's to stay motivated -
The best step's to keep going on a daily basis is to chest-out pretend or ignore the reaction of those around you. Sometimes, these could be distraction.Prepare and focus your mind on accomplishing a heathier lifestyle.
Be happy, acknowledge the fact that you have bbbut, you are working toward's getting the right solution. For now, you've just not laid your hand's on working product's
Speak and convince yourself, thet you are not poorly hygienic as long as you keep brushing and applying your daily medication to the best you can.
Belief it, this mindset will make you feel no guilt in midst of humiliation. Say to youself, it's not my might fault that i'm a bb victim.
But, the good news is that i'm doing something to get myself out from this mess.
I practise this affirmation over a period of time and it had helped me not to judge myself base on what the other person think's about me. I have been through stuff which tend to be more complicated than bb.
Rememberance of a previous ugly situation which i have gone through in the past actually gives me inner strength face the current challenges
Don't judge yourself base on what other people are saying. This behavious will sunk your energy which are required to combat against the current challenges.
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Speak to yourself, i refuse to judge myself because i know what i'm going through!
I recognised that i'm going through hell but, no one seem to understand me or see's thing's from my own perspective!
I refuse to gain recognition in sight of men in order to be happy with myself!
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Note : i suggest you repeat these affirmation to yourselve in a quiet mode (enviroment)
Assume everything happening round you does not exist if, you think they will be an instrument of discouragement have negative influence on you.
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
I refuse to seek opinion from people in order to be happy!
I know this it's my life, it my problem and my positive approach are gradually working a perfect solution for me.
I refuse to condemn myself by reliace on guilt,selfpity,isolation, depression... because will only me captive.
It does not matter if, they talk about my breath in the public or close places.
It does not matter if, they talk about my breath to my hearing or without my knowledge
What matter is that i'm happy, i'm strong and i'm overcoming problem that seem like a mountain today.
I donot need approval of anyone to be happy today.
I thank God for the ultimate gift of love today irrespective of my current situation.
I refuse to focus current problem.
----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Practicing to meditate and speak these word to yourself will not only raise self esteem but, it will also release inner energy that will keep you going until a day when you will finally say, i'm cured.
Fear is one of such attack that is gradually killing people today in our society. fear of rejection rejection, of getting broke,fear of humiliation...ecc
Negative thought's are more powerful than bad breath. So, we need conquer some of these thought's lingering in our mind/head in order to have more energy to overcome bb.
Finally, another ways to live without depression is to engage oneselves in doing what we loved doing. Nothing gives inner satisfaction than helping other's or reaching out to help other with your skill or talent. We all live in a society that is surrounded with people who are trying to solve or overcome one form of addiction or the other.
Helping or assisting other's who are in a more complicated situation will eventually increase our strength and fill our heart with joy
There are countless number's of what we can do. You maybe skillful in one area's more than the next door fellow, an offer to help will not only increase your sense of humor but, will also go along way to combat against depression. I find out that most idle people easily get depress in the face of challenges. Life is full of challenges but, overcoming one form of challenges will actually give you a greater strength to overcome the other challenges.
Cheer
Smilinagain