Hi,
I'm trying to find out how I can not look weird to other people. I realized that I can't hide the fact that I have chronic halitosis. So avoiding social contacts doesn't help. Instead I'm thinkin of changin my attitude. I'm movin to another country next week to study there and everyone there is like new to me. It'll be like a new start.
For those who have chronic halitosis but can live a perfect happy life like they don't have chronic halitosis. How do you engage is group conversations? I mean doesn't it kill you when you see everyone reacting to your bad breath? Do you just ignore all the reactions and pretend you don't have bad breath?
People say I don't smile very often, but that's because I always use to keep my mouth shut all the time and if I smiled there would always be one person that would react to my breath and then they look at me in a disgusted way. Damn it, why can't there be just something that can at least control the odour. I'm so sick of it. I don't think changin my attitude will be enough cause others still might not like me because of my bb. My sis says it's because of my attitude that others don't like me. I say it's both.
How do you engage in group conversations?
--makes me a bit less paranoid so that I can actually speak up.Is there like someone who doesn't care on this forum. Like "screw everyone and their reactions cause I'm goin to say as much as I want to"?
Sometimes I wonder how people cannot be in a depression when they see other people constantly reating to their breath. They must have a super monster big ego that can't be hurt no matter what.
Sometimes I wonder how people cannot be in a depression when they see other people constantly reating to their breath. They must have a super monster big ego that can't be hurt no matter what.
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Busted, I´m so sorry for you. So sorry that nothing has helped to get some relief to you....
If you bb is soooooooo bad you clearly should have some fisical issue, keep bothering every ****ing doctor that you can until you get some answers. You need the help of your fathers and your sister too, you need their support.
But theres a thing in what i believe: I think that is a big possibility that you are exagerating the level of your bb, maybe it isn´t so bad, maybe it was so bad in certain time and now is just not good. But that doesn´t mean that you got to feel like your are a mosnter or something. I understand you though, but you have to realize that all these years of pain had destroyed your self autosteem, and jour joy, it´s very possible that you´re just so afraid of keep being hurt that you wont be able to see an improve, or improbe your spiritual life until you realize that your breath is not all you are. You are a lot more things, and you got to show it to the people. What worries me is what your sister says, you got to pay very attention to her advice, she should tell you the truth if you are honest with her...be honest, open your heart to the ones who loves you, and let them help you. Is the first step that you got to do to be able to see some light man. you´re to young, don´t hide your self more than it´s necesary.
For example, i got this client. He´s a senior manager in a big company. I ve been realizing that he has a huge bad breaht. He always have it. I really believe his breath is worst than mine. But....he don´t know it!! The guy has around 40 years and never no one told him nothing about it, or directly he don´t care. But he acts like he don´t know!
and the thing is.....i work with him and i smell it.....and i don´t care either (anyway i´m not gonna kiss him or ***k him, i just work with him!). He works in this company where there is full of beautifull girls, (i know it from the inside) and he don´t care! You know what he does?? He does classes of marketing and motivational working to other companies. He speaks in front and near of hundreds of people and he doesn´t care! and most important, clearly to the others doesn´t care either. And the company is not ashamed to send this bb guy to do the speaks either. And She has a wife and two little kids too.
SO, I MEAN, MAN WE CAN, we are not mosters.
This is some possitive thing in what we should think about....
Keep your head up my friend, when you meet this all new people, make your regards, but try to be yourself, is the only way out for now.....
And if you don´t know how to face your family, cause it´s hard to talk about this pain in details....just show them this site. Show them your posts. Show them this post too. This post is for them too.....
Good luck...
If you bb is soooooooo bad you clearly should have some fisical issue, keep bothering every ****ing doctor that you can until you get some answers. You need the help of your fathers and your sister too, you need their support.
But theres a thing in what i believe: I think that is a big possibility that you are exagerating the level of your bb, maybe it isn´t so bad, maybe it was so bad in certain time and now is just not good. But that doesn´t mean that you got to feel like your are a mosnter or something. I understand you though, but you have to realize that all these years of pain had destroyed your self autosteem, and jour joy, it´s very possible that you´re just so afraid of keep being hurt that you wont be able to see an improve, or improbe your spiritual life until you realize that your breath is not all you are. You are a lot more things, and you got to show it to the people. What worries me is what your sister says, you got to pay very attention to her advice, she should tell you the truth if you are honest with her...be honest, open your heart to the ones who loves you, and let them help you. Is the first step that you got to do to be able to see some light man. you´re to young, don´t hide your self more than it´s necesary.
For example, i got this client. He´s a senior manager in a big company. I ve been realizing that he has a huge bad breaht. He always have it. I really believe his breath is worst than mine. But....he don´t know it!! The guy has around 40 years and never no one told him nothing about it, or directly he don´t care. But he acts like he don´t know!
and the thing is.....i work with him and i smell it.....and i don´t care either (anyway i´m not gonna kiss him or ***k him, i just work with him!). He works in this company where there is full of beautifull girls, (i know it from the inside) and he don´t care! You know what he does?? He does classes of marketing and motivational working to other companies. He speaks in front and near of hundreds of people and he doesn´t care! and most important, clearly to the others doesn´t care either. And the company is not ashamed to send this bb guy to do the speaks either. And She has a wife and two little kids too.
SO, I MEAN, MAN WE CAN, we are not mosters.
This is some possitive thing in what we should think about....
Keep your head up my friend, when you meet this all new people, make your regards, but try to be yourself, is the only way out for now.....
And if you don´t know how to face your family, cause it´s hard to talk about this pain in details....just show them this site. Show them your posts. Show them this post too. This post is for them too.....
Good luck...
Today I had some of my classmates talkin about my bad breath. They talked about why they shouldn't talk to me because of my bad breath. How one of em should offer me some gum. *Sigh such idiots, I was chewing on one. It's because I tried to act really nice and pretended my bb didn't exist yesterday. So I pretty much have said things to everyone of em. My sister was wrong, I was being nice and I tried to start conversations, but they wouldn't even last 1 min. I didn't have the attitude of not wanting to look for a friend. My bb scared them all away. They all know about my bb. They have all become one group of friends now and I'm being left out. I'm being discriminated because of my bad breath. I wanted to see if I changed my attitude if it was goin to help me get some friends, but apprantly it's impossible. It's war now. It's me against them. I think I'm destinated to be a loner. After reading all those stories like waitingforrelief and others, I thought bb may not be such a big deal to others, but apparently it is. Well at least mine is. But I tried to make friends.
Now I know 100% sure that all these years I avoided conversations, was the best thing to do for me. And all those stupid teachers criticizing me for being anti-social were all just ignorant. I'm not goin to look for a friend anymore, I'm pretty sure there's not one person who can stand my bb.
But I'm suffering years from this, and they just make fun of you lik that. I gives me a certain unfair feeling. My hate towards my classmates is pretty strong now.
I will try and keep my head up emotional resque, but the rest of the world is like my enemy now. It was destined to be this way. Let's just say no matter how nice and friendly I am, my bad breath will make them dislike me.
How do I know this so sure. Well I was talkin to one of em from a pretty safe distance. And he talked to me back just like he does to everyone else until he came closer. He immediately turned his head away and spoke to another person. I tried to carry on the conversation but he couldn't stand my bb so he turned away and just said "yes". I'm sorry but if you see this, how can my family possibly say that I'm the one who's rude. Why are they on their side? I wish I taped that moment and the moment today where they talked about my bad breath, so I can prove to them that I have used the right strategy to survive. And why won't they believe that my bb is indeed a big problem. So many things are goin through my head right now. This bad breath has turned the whole world against me.
Good luck to you too ER and thanks for your support,
Now I know 100% sure that all these years I avoided conversations, was the best thing to do for me. And all those stupid teachers criticizing me for being anti-social were all just ignorant. I'm not goin to look for a friend anymore, I'm pretty sure there's not one person who can stand my bb.
But I'm suffering years from this, and they just make fun of you lik that. I gives me a certain unfair feeling. My hate towards my classmates is pretty strong now.
I will try and keep my head up emotional resque, but the rest of the world is like my enemy now. It was destined to be this way. Let's just say no matter how nice and friendly I am, my bad breath will make them dislike me.
How do I know this so sure. Well I was talkin to one of em from a pretty safe distance. And he talked to me back just like he does to everyone else until he came closer. He immediately turned his head away and spoke to another person. I tried to carry on the conversation but he couldn't stand my bb so he turned away and just said "yes". I'm sorry but if you see this, how can my family possibly say that I'm the one who's rude. Why are they on their side? I wish I taped that moment and the moment today where they talked about my bad breath, so I can prove to them that I have used the right strategy to survive. And why won't they believe that my bb is indeed a big problem. So many things are goin through my head right now. This bad breath has turned the whole world against me.
Good luck to you too ER and thanks for your support,
Hey Busted, I just read your post and wanted to say that I know exactly how you feel . Over the years I have developed ways in social situations to lessen how reactions from other people would affect me (I had to try something to preserve my confidence and it wasnt ever gonna happen buy buying some fancy mouthwash!). It is very very easy to become a social recluse when your confidence in your own breath is hammered by others and I have often missed out on going places or doing things with my friends for fear of breathing on them and being embarrassed. However, until you find a way to manage the problem that works for you heres some things that helped me:
1) there may be time when your breath is worse than others-when you are aware of this try not to speak to people too close up and perhaps meet friends in situations you can sit slightly at a distance while still engaging. Nightclubs/cinemas =bad. Sat across a table =good. You will find what proximity you feel happy with. Having water to hand is always a good idea.
2) try to be aware of your body language. If you look embarrsed or defensive then this will read and just make u feel more awkward. If you pull back when talking people may just lean in to hear you better-try to appear confident when you are not.
3) Dont let good friendships disappear because of BB. Even if you do withdraw away from hanging out with people keep your relationships open via phonecalls, email, the net..whatever. Good friends stick around and you may eventually be able to say that you are having recurring problems with throat infections even if you cannot say you are unhappy because of BB.
4) Remember who you are, the good you have to offer and that BB dosent make you inferior or lesser than anyone else. It's hard at times I know..but hold fast onto the fact that your breath doe's not define you. When it comes down to it, BB is not your fault.
Hope that all dosent read as too preachy but just wanted to share what has enabled me to "get on" with life while at times being very depressed inside about what I was going through.
Good luck!
1) there may be time when your breath is worse than others-when you are aware of this try not to speak to people too close up and perhaps meet friends in situations you can sit slightly at a distance while still engaging. Nightclubs/cinemas =bad. Sat across a table =good. You will find what proximity you feel happy with. Having water to hand is always a good idea.
2) try to be aware of your body language. If you look embarrsed or defensive then this will read and just make u feel more awkward. If you pull back when talking people may just lean in to hear you better-try to appear confident when you are not.
3) Dont let good friendships disappear because of BB. Even if you do withdraw away from hanging out with people keep your relationships open via phonecalls, email, the net..whatever. Good friends stick around and you may eventually be able to say that you are having recurring problems with throat infections even if you cannot say you are unhappy because of BB.
4) Remember who you are, the good you have to offer and that BB dosent make you inferior or lesser than anyone else. It's hard at times I know..but hold fast onto the fact that your breath doe's not define you. When it comes down to it, BB is not your fault.
Hope that all dosent read as too preachy but just wanted to share what has enabled me to "get on" with life while at times being very depressed inside about what I was going through.
Good luck!